Why friendships with men can be killing for your love life

I’ve always had this theory that a man with a female best friend is better than a man with only man friends. This is because he gets some feminine input once in a while regarding his actions thus getting a better understanding of the opposite sex which in turn is good for us. I’m my best friend’s best female friend and he has moments when he doesn’t understand women and then I lovingly explain how unexcelled a woman’s mind can be. Turning things around I was always in the understanding that my numerous male friends contributed to my general understanding of men, but lately it dawned on me that this was not the case.

Everything’s allowed except kissing or crossing the line

Whoever spends evenings with men usually hears stories about beer, tits and guns. There’s complaining about the girlfriend as she seemingly whines for more attention, there’s talk of hot chicks as if they are talking about a takeout menu and you learn all about their curious habit of ‘playing the single guy for one night’.  Everything’s allowed except kissing or crossing the line, that leaves flirting, dancing and that sort of thing, all A-okay.

You hear about affairs, detailed descriptions about the erogenous female zones, about how much of what we say is considered nagging, well to make a long story short you hear things you actually don’t want to hear.

Eventually I let a dear friend read the whole story giving him the order to: “decode this”

Women who spend the whole night decoding text messages are often barking up the wrong tree, ‘okay’ for a man usually means ‘okay’. Being naïve is not a good thing but a little naivety will do no harm at all. So for me it’s a dilemma. Should I or shouldn’t I listen to them?

The good thing is I get to ask my best friend for male advice just as he consorts me. Once I was dating a guy who kept giving me mixed signals. Eventually I let a dear friend read the whole story giving him the order to: “DECODE THIS”. His insights were very clarifying, and no girlfriend would ever have read the same into this.

So, all in all, maybe we should embrace our male friends and use them when needed but the moment they all start getting manly together it’s time to put our hands over our ears and run off to return to naïve femaleland.