THINGS YOU DON’T WANT TO HEAR AFTER A BREAKUP

Whoever claims a root canal treatment is more painful than a broken heart has never had to deal with one. There are only a few emotions that hurt as much as a broken heart or unanswered love. During the days/weeks after a breakup you receive support and help from your family and friends but sometimes this help is not offered in the most ideal way. Recognizable for those who have gone through the process of a breakup and advice for those with friends who are in the middle of a tortured heartache: these are the things you don’t want to hear if your heart has just been broken.

There are only a few emotions that hurt as much as a broken heart or unanswered love.

 “I never really liked him anyway.”

Never say this, ever. What if they overcome their differences and get back together? The uneasiness of your friend knowing you don’t like him will never go away. And even if they don’t make up, no one wants to hear they’re crying over spilt milk, how can you be supportive if you don’t understand what she saw in him in the first place?

“I’ve been single forever and it’s really not as bad as it seems.”

Not as bad as it seems. It’s still bad though.

TOLD YOU SO.

“Do you know what you need? A girls night out! Or a day at the spa!”

yeah right. That will solve everything won’t it?

“Maybe you’re just too picky.”

Yes, no, exactly, it’s all my fault now. I just have to adjust my expectations. Sure honey.

“My …. is still single, interested?”

Suddenly the whole world is crawling with eligible bachelors. Everyone seems to know a nephew, next-door neighbor or the best friend of their second best friend who happens to be single, just to ensure you’re back in the saddle as soon as possible because being single is something you have to avoid at all costs.

“Thank goodness you haven’t moved in together/ you’re not married yet.”

Yes and no because then my pain would have been justified, right?

“At least now you have some time to yourself, do the things you want to do.”

I DON’T WANT TO BE BY MYSELF. I want to be with him.

“Well, it’s his lose. You’re great.”

You are going to hear this one a lot. You’ll hear how great you are and that he’s a loser for letting you get away. But if you were really that great and cool, why did he? It only stirs up more questions and you have enough on your mind already.

“ Ouch. You should date older men, works a charm.”

But how? How much older? And why? Seriously, why?