Why do women fall for bad men?

Books have been filled from cover to cover and many female get-togethers have tackled this subject: Why do we let ourselves in with a type we should be staying clear of? You know he’s going to break your heart, you know you deserve better, but still. Sigh. You are putty in his hands when he says all the right things, showers you with gifts and takes you to lavish dinners. In the beginning it looks like you will be the one, the only one, who wants to make him change his ways. But then he stops texting back, taking your calls and is unavailable for days. “ I was out of town” or some other vague excuse is piled on top of others until you end up sitting on the sofa alone with a broken heart, six empty wine bottles and a pile of stubs from a family size pack of Marlboro Light. Why do we do this?

“alone with a broken heart, six empty wine bottles and a pile of stubs from a family size pack of Marlboro Light”

The classic answer is that every woman has an irresistible urge to tame wild men. That is the ultimate search for self-determination: I am good enough for him. That this is never meant to be has been written in the stars, alas, love is blind. It’s not as much about changing the man as the idea of being special enough for him to give up his wicked ways.

You can take a more scientific approach. There are quite a few serious studies dedicated to this phenomena leading up to the following conclusion. It’s the “Dark Triad” of personalities: a combination of characteristics that are genetically determined, mostly in men. This is the reason a bad boy can never become a good guy. Those traits are: narcissism (intense love of the self), psychopathy (impulsive ruthlessness) Machiavellianism (manipulative an misleading behavior). Rather heavy words but they cover their ground. This type of man prefers short relationships and puts quantity above quality.

Because they’re such expert manipulators they are good at seducing and knowing exactly how to win over a woman.

The thing is that evolutionary speaking this group of men have a head start on other men. They are with more women so they have a greater chance at spreading their gens, biologically speaking the main motivator for human beings. Because they’re such expert manipulators they are good at seducing and know exactly how to win over a woman. No matter how emancipated we are (or want to be) we still secretly want a manly man. Cute style that Metro man look, but we want beards! And chest hair! Big and strong! Thus someone very fertile.

All said and done it is best to stay clear of the bad boy. You should never want to change a man as you will be taking on a fight with genes and you won’t win. Nice for one night, but after that it’s Basta. If you have fallen for it you can call me, I’m very good with white wine and cigarettes.