WHY YOU SHOULDN’T WORRY ABOUT HIS EX

It’s a nightmare for every woman; her new lover that keeps a warm friendship with his ex. The ex is always the rotten apple, always a threat and if he keeps seeing her, the house is always too small. This is what I don’t understand. Let me rephrase that: I bloody well don’t get it.

When I’m dating a new man-person I try to retrieve information about the relation to his exes as soon as possible. Is he the kind of man who rolls from one relationship to the other? Has he ever been in a serious relationship? Whether it’s one or the other it always provides you with inside information about that person. And why did the relationship end? Who ended it? Was he heartbroken? Or not? I always have to restrain myself to keep from putting him in the firing line. On a first date this might come over as, uhm, greedy?

There’s a time to come and a time to go, the other went and you came. See?

Look, for one thing she isn’t his ex for no reason. Just as you are not-ex for a reason. There’s a time to come and a time to go, the others went and you came. See? Jealousy is always the result of your own uncertainty. So if you’re having a hard time because he’s still friendly with his ex you might need a critical look in the mirror and maybe you even need to have that chat with yourself.

I personally find it very charming if a man remains good friends with his ex. This way you know, if your relationship should ever end, you won’t just be cast aside. It also shows he doesn’t hold a grudge against his ex and that’s exactly want you want, right? If both parties come to terms with the fact their relationship is over they can see if they want to continue seeing each other in the form of a friendship. If one party wants more than the other it becomes messy. Therefore I would worry more if there were no contact as opposed to a lot of contact.

In addition the fact that you like him and he liked her so it’s therefore quite possible that you like her too. Maybe you’ll end up with a new friend. All in all we’re talking WIN-WIN here. My advice is to embrace the ex; if you start acting like a jealous possessive bitch you’ll soon end up as the ex yourself.