Fun & Famous

Ghosting: the worst way to get dumped

So there is finally an official word for the absurd I’m-going-to-suddenly-disappear-and-completely-ignore-you-trick. It’s called ‘ghosting’. Yep, the situation in which the other person (or you) suddenly evaporates into thin air without any sort of warning and doesn’t respond to any messages. Perhaps ‘practically dead’ is a better way of putting it.

Despite the persistent rumors, Charlize Theron claims that she didn’t use the ghosting tactic to get rid of her ex Sean Penn. Because just like us, the actress knows that people who get associated with ghosting immediately get associated with the North Pole, and no one wants to be known as an ice queen. “The fucking ghosting thing, like literally, I still don’t even know what is is. We were in a relationship and then it didn’t work anymore. And we both decided to separate. That’s it.”

“Do you have any idea what a dick move it is?”

Huffington Post recently had a poll which concluded that 11 percent of the grownups were still not grown up enough to dump their partner, fling, or whatever the heck the other person was, in a respectable manner. According to The New York Tumes ghosting literally means: “ending a romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring the former partner’s attempts to reach out.”

Yep, sounds familiar.

I can understand that in the world of Tinder, or anything similar, this might be a trend, but do you have any idea what a dick move it is? Especially young adults around the ages of 18 to 29 are often the dupes of ghosting. Speaking of ghosting, two years ago I was the victim of this godawful way of being dissed. One of my best friends decided to just pull the plug on our friendship without any form of consent and now I’m still left with an endless list of questions and to this day, I still get ignored. My phone number, WhatsApp, any social media connections we had – everything you can think of was suddenly blocked. No communication is by far the worst type of communication ever. Enter the five phases of mourning: denial, anger, wanting to fight about it, sadness and acceptance. Happy ghosting.

So this is a message to all your ghosters out there: shame on you. And for all you poor souls who have been the victim of this pathetic form of being dumped; if someone feels the need to sink this low, you are much better off without ‘em. Cheers.