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things you need to consider before starting a long distance relationship

The portrait was all very American, my cousin and I sitting outside on the drive way. Glass of white wine in one hand and a basketball in the other, when Mister X drove up. It was my aunt’s brilliant idea to organize a blind date for me. A blind date that turned into a long distance relationship. Might sound romantic to some, but a long distance relationship isn’t an easy one. I’ve spent countless amounts of moments sobbing on the couch knowing that saying goodbye was right around the corner. But hey, that’s the very last thing you think about the first time you share a kiss when you’re standing outside in front of The White House. Sure, it’s cool being able to say: ‘My boyfriend, oh, he lives in America’. And every time you see each other again at the airport it’s like a scene from your favorite romcom. But still, a long distance relationship gives you plenty of things to think about. Recently met your match on the other side of that big blue ocean? Then this post is for you.

The advantages

  1. You suddenly get old fashioned mail again.
  2. Unexpected packages and love letters, can you think of anything better than that?
  3. You get to see a lot of the world. The airport becomes your second home.
  4. A long distance relationship is good for your bilingual skills. For your Spanish, Italian, Portuguese, Swedish… You name it.
  5. The time you do get to spend together is always one gigantic party.
  6. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. If there’s something that oozes passion, then it’s the long distance sex. Make up sex is nothing compared to this.
  7. You keep your own routine, your own hobby’s and job, and you always have plenty of time for your friends.

The disadvantages…

  1. The absolute worst part of across the pond relationships is the time difference. You go to bed, he’s in the middle of a meeting. You wake up, his night kicks in. Skype and FaceTime calls pretty much always happen when you’re at work. Not ideal.
  2. You’re most likely going to create two different wardrobes like I did: one for at his place and one for yours. So how badly does it suck when that one dress you’re looking for isn’t at your place, but at his…
  3.  It feels more like you’re single than in a relationship. You’ll always be the one showing up to parties on your own and let me tell you, that isn’t always the best feeling.
  4. It’s going to cost you a hefty amount of money, traveling back and forth all the time. Every euro you save is spent directly on flight tickets.
  5. The moments you are together, you try to plan in everything you always want to do when he (or she) isn’t around. Family visits, dinner dates, strolls through parks, head to the movies; you name it, you want to do all of it TOGETHER. All the while also wanting to hang out and do absolutely NOTHING together. But that would be a waste of your precious time…

So think of me when you turn on your Tinder when you’re visiting a different country.

I wouldn’t change it for the world though, my 300 Hello/Goodbye’s…