Fun & Famous
WHY YOU’RE SO ATTRACTED TO HIM (OR HER)
To say that all of you have the hots for Harvey Specter is an understatement. But the object of your sexual interest in real life is most likely not a Harvey lookalike (and incase it is, then I’d advise you to keep him hidden from the public). Your flings usually don’t look like boyfriend or girlfriend material but why is it that you’ve always got the hots for some people and feel absolutely nothing for others? In the name of science, I’d like to present you to the answer.
Do you dream of angels chanting, horses in full gallop and being swept off of your feet by love? Then I’m about to rip apart your fluffy pink cloud (sorry). ‘The one’ does not exist, there are more people that suit you. Not my words, these are from a Dutch professor from the Amsterdam University, so don’t shoot the messenger. As long as he’s athletic, looks symmetrical and is an above average male (or female, depends on what you’re into). This is a symbol of health and that is, according to research, the one thing we’re all looking for. Take a model for example, they fulfill all these requirements.
”This has nothing to do with beauty, but has everything to do with reproduction.”
You can expand this package with a couple of extra options. Take beauty as the base of the package, but if you add two ginormous boobs into the mix as a woman, the odds are pretty big than men see potential in you. This has nothing to do with beauty, but has everything to do with reproduction. Big breasts suggest that you’re a good feeder (poof, bye bye sex). Choosing who the love of your life is has everything to do with making baby’s. And your nose, because women opt for a favorable scent when it comes to men. More to add? Most definitely. Back to the gene package. Ladies prefer men who’ve got their dads hair color and men prefer women with their moms eye color. To continue along in terms of family resemblances, we opt for external traits that we miss ourselves. So if you weren’t first in line when being handed out good genes (Gigi Hadid-wise), then you’ll just adapt your requirements list to things that are achievable. This all works out automatically.
”Look for someone you can have fun with and you’re in sync with”
So what about the interior? Women want rich men and men want women who are good looking and know how to cook. And that whole opposites attract theory? Nonsense. Look for someone you can have fun with and you’re in sync with. It’s a lot more lucrative, because if you’re able to do fun things together, your relationship will be a lot more fun too. A shared interest in accelerated cell division (to just randomly name something) means a better, steamier and happier marriage. And then there’s your ovulation to add a little thunder into the mix. Is it your week of misère, your partner wants hot and Steamy and the rest of the month McDreamy. Done? Nope. The pill confuses this pattern even more, because those added hormones are going to influence your attraction even more. If you bid farewell to the pill, then it’s possible that your butterflies for your love find their way to the dumpster. Positive point: love is an emotion you can steer. Even the non-monogamous meadow vole became as faithful as a dog during research, all due to the love hormone oxytocin. I’m just saying, there’s still hope.
One consolation though. Are you torn into a million different pieces because of a breakup? That too, shall pass, because the science in being heartbroken is that it’s the withdrawal process. Perhaps something to contemplate if you find yourself still in bed after a week wallowing.
Source: Quest
Written by Adeline Mans
