Matchmakers say: These are 3 red flags in your date’s house.

If you’ve been dating for a while and are spending more time at each other’s houses, it’s time to pay closer attention. The way someone decorates their home can reveal a lot about the person you’re dating. Matchmaker April Davis has listed a few red flags to watch out for. If you notice any of the following things in your partner’s house, it might be time to ask yourself if this relationship is really right for you.

Extreme Clutter

This doesn’t just mean one dish left on the counter, but random items scattered everywhere. It should be obvious: nothing is where it should be. While clutter itself may not necessarily be a dealbreaker, Davis says it’s about the underlying cause. “It could mean your partner is struggling with emotional overwhelm or avoiding dealing with personal issues.” Someone dealing with a lot of stress may start to find things like tidying up at home less important. If your partner doesn’t pay attention to their own living space, according to Davis, it could also mean they won’t make an effort in other areas, such as your relationship. That’s definitely not something you want to happen.

Photos of an Ex

This might seem obvious, but you’d be surprised at how often an ex’s photo still shows up somewhere. It’s not necessarily a problem if your partner has kept these photos—maybe it was a long-awaited vacation. However, the red flag is when those specific photos are prominently displayed in the house. “If your partner hasn’t made an effort to remove these images, it could indicate unresolved feelings or emotional baggage,” says Davis. You might want to ask yourself whether your partner is truly over their ex and capable of fully committing to your relationship. You never want to feel like a second choice.

A Drawer Full of Takeout Menus

I also enjoy ordering sushi from time to time, but if you find a drawer full of takeout menus at your partner’s place, it’s worth questioning. This could be a sign that they’re not particularly interested in domestic chores. If you don’t live together yet, this might not bother you too much, but if you do plan to live together in the future, it might cause problems. “Over time, your partner’s reluctance to cook may turn into an unwillingness to help with other household tasks,” Davis warns. It might seem like a long-term concern, but it’s worth thinking ahead about what could potentially happen.

Don’t Panic

If you notice any of these things, Davis says it doesn’t mean your relationship is automatically doomed. Talking to your partner about what’s going on can help you understand the thoughts and reasons behind these behaviors. That way, you can also figure out if you can work together to change these habits. If not, it might be better to prioritize your own well-being.

Source: Pure Wow