Narcissists Can’t Stand It When You Say This One Sentence to Them

We’ve probably all met a narcissist in our lives. And narcissists don’t handle criticism very well, do they? There’s one thing you absolutely should not say to a narcissist.

And it’s very simple: “It’s not all about you.”

A kind of statement that hits wrong with anyone who has narcissistic tendencies. Narcissism is known as a personality disorder in which people see themselves as very important. A touch of selfishness, you could say. They believe they are always right and, indeed, that the world really does revolve around them. They love posting selfies, are always concerned with their appearance and how they come across to others. The funny thing is, they can seem very social at events. They’re charming, funny – they know exactly what others want.

But underneath, there’s something you’d rather not encounter: deceit. Because if things don’t go their way, they can walk away in an instant. Your friendship or relationship with a narcissist can end just like that. Especially if you don’t give them what they want and push back: if you say the world doesn’t revolve around them, they quickly grow tired of you. They want to manipulate and be in control. Not be guided by you.

“It’s not always about what you want!” is a variation of that phrase they don’t want to hear. They can’t handle it. This sentence goes against their self-centered worldview and can frustrate them, because they cannot tolerate being challenged or losing control of a conversation. Narcissists struggle to face their own mistakes or shortcomings, so statements like this can really upset them.

And you know what? That’s actually something to be happy about. Because saying this keeps narcissists nicely at a distance. You go, girl.