This is how you get over a broken heart
We all get a broken heart sooner or later. And that is always downright shitty. Whether it was a fleeting flame or a long-term relationship, when love is no longer love, it's not fun for anyone. But, the blood-irritating cliché is really true: time heals all wounds. And besides, the things below can also help immensely.
Girlfriends
To start with the most important: without your girlfriends you won't get through the broken heart phase. When my most recent relationship ended, I called my best friend hysterically crying and could only manage to say through the sobs, “heeeeeet iiiisss uuiiihuuuiiiit.” She didn't need much more than that; within 10 minutes the doorbell rang and she was at my doorstep with five bottles of wine (see next point) and three packs of cigarettes (sorry). And in the weeks that followed, all my girlfriends and friends were so heartwarmingly sweet. I was allowed to cry, curse, whine, talk for as long as I wanted, and no one said they weren't in the mood for it. You shouldn't bottle up this kind of shit and should lay every little feeling on the table immediately.
Wine
Very. Important. Lots of wine and then even more. And that can be all day long. Or well, almost all day long. I drank myself a broken liver during that time and it really helped immensely.
Seek distraction
Don't sit at home feeling sorry for yourself but get out. Fill your days with fun things because distraction is so incredibly necessary. Go out to eat, to the disco, festivals or whatever, but whatever you do; don't immerse yourself in your own misery.
Big cleanup
This is different for everyone, but for me it helped immensely not to be constantly confronted with the man I was so sad about. All the photos, gifts, notes or whatever that remind you of him: put them in a bag or box and store them away. Don't throw it away because that would be a waste forever, but it does need to be out of your sight for a while. I even went so far as to buy a new iPhone because every night I secretly searched for old photos and messages from times when we were still happy and drove myself completely crazy with it. So make sure to have a clean start.
Book a trip
Because dreaming about a beautiful adventure far from here is exactly what you need. Three years ago, there were several factors that sent me traveling the world, but one of them was love troubles. Go away, and yes, you can even do that (just!) by yourself. Read here why.
Start a new little adventure
You might not think about it at first, but there will come a moment when you're ready for a new person. Your head might not be in the mood for a new relationship for a while, but a little casual fun has never made anyone worse off. Moreover, it makes you realize that there are more fish in the sea, and even though you might not think so in the first weeks after The Break, it really is true. And who knows, maybe you'll end up with a really fun new flame.
