denying your bank balance

Look, I am generally a fierce opponent of all those easy and often unjust man-woman clichés, but sometimes it is just bitter truth. So it seems to me typically something for women to in case of financial tightness stubbornly ignore the balance. As in: you just calmly don't check your balance for days because if you don't know how broke you are, then you are not broke.

No argument against it if you ask me, but maybe not the most responsible way. We have mentioned before that at least Jet and I are a disaster with everything that has to do with administration. I only pay things with a direct debit because I simply forget to transfer them myself. Such a bill just sits there until it is accompanied by a letter from a collection agency, and then I immediately pay the bill including a fine out of fear of years in prison or worse, that they come to take all my clothes and shoes.

Last week I had another serious case of balance ignoring. Something with new Valentino boots. It was also at the end of the month, just after my vacation, well maybe not exactly a situation my father would approve of (hi dad sorry dad). But after buying those boots, I did have a brief moment of panic because um I'm not that rich either. Then I quickly start thinking about what I can cut back on in the coming time, and think about how I can get extra money.

By the way, May-Britt does the same, she never checks her bank balance. Never. “I have an unconscious balance meter so I always know when I can't anymore. I can't calculate well, but it's just a feeling. I know approximately what has come in and approximately what has gone out. But sometimes I can get very overheated if I think I've crossed that line, then I immediately start cutting back on everything. For a while, that is.”

Jet has the same behavior as I do. Just ignore. Don't look. What isn't there isn't there. We can also very well tell each other that we really need to be frugal now. It goes like this:

Jet: “I really need to save, money is going way too fast.”
Lies: “Yeah god me too man. Mega broke.”
Jet: “Hey but are we still going out to eat next week?”
Lies: “Yes! Please! But a bit cheap.”

[once in actually not so cheap restaurant]
Both: “Shall we have one extra bottle of wine or two?”

In short, coziness always wins over practical trivialities like balance. Coziness and Valentino. You have to keep it a bit fun, of course.