Women; stop saying sorry
Women, myself included, have the annoying habit of apologizing all the time for all sorts of things they really shouldn't be apologizing for. Men have much less trouble with this, and it's about time women learned a thing or two about it. For example, in the following situations.
When you don't have any makeup on
I often hear myself say, “yeah sorry that I look like this, I just didn't have time or the desire to put on makeup this morning.” Um, what is that nonsense? Apologizing a bit for how you actually look. Whole hordes of women refuse to be photographed without a thorough layer of foundation and mascara because they ‘don't look good.“ We really need to stop this; makeup is fun and handy and lovely, but it’s not a must. Take it or leave it.
When you don't respond to a message right away
I'm quite a bad emailer and WhatsApp user and can easily forget your message for a few days. That's annoying and you can be called out on that, but when someone doesn't respond for a few hours, there's really nothing wrong with that. I've never heard a man say, “oh sorry for responding so late, but this and that.” I do that very often, when someone messages me in the morning and I only respond in the afternoon. Why is that, actually?
“Why should I twist myself into a thousand knots and why do I make it so difficult for myself?”
When you cancel an appointment because you're tired/no desire/no time
“I'm sooooo sorry but I can't make it to that party tonight because I have a thousand things to do and work is so busy and I really feel terrible about it, I promise I'll make it up to you, please don’t hate me.” Sound familiar? You know, sometimes you just feel like cocooning on the couch instead of socializing. That's your right, you shouldn't feel guilty about it. Ever heard a man respond like that? They either show up or they just send a message saying, “Yo, I can't make it, talk to you later.” God, that sounds wonderful to me.
When you ask complicated questions to the waiter/clothing seller
I'm a pro at asking, with a lot of excuses and fuss, if there’s maybe a chance I could try these shoes in another size. Or if I could maybe still order a glass of water. “You’re paying, right?” has been said to me before, and that’s absolutely true. Why should I twist myself into a thousand knots and why do I make it so difficult for myself?
“I'm sorry to say this, but I really think you're a piece of shit in this situation.”
When you remind someone of a promise
A friend borrows a dress from you with the promise to return it next week. But after a week, that dress is still not in your closet, after two weeks it’s still not there, and after three weeks you cautiously ask for the third time if you could please get that dress back. If someone borrows from you and doesn't return it even after multiple reminders, then you are NOT the one who should be saying sorry.
When you say what you think
In disputes with men, I can always rant wonderfully, but I often wrap those sentences in, “I'm sorry to say this, but I really think you're a piece of shit in this situation.” Why do I say that?! I don't feel sorry at all; he is just a piece of shit and he should feel sorry. And I definitely shouldn't feel sorry for saying what I think. Especially not when I'm right (which I almost always am).
