Fun & Famous
5 THINGS MALE MANAGERS CAN LEARN FROM US
Let it be clear that I love men. Personally and professionally. Nice and clear, no hassle with monthly moods, a constant taste, and what you see is usually what you get. But still, it’s not for nothing that John de Mol prefers to work with women. Because we women are not so crazy in the workplace, there are some gentlemen who could learn a lot from us.
1. Give someone else the credit
I know a lot of men who are particularly generous when it comes to sharing credits, but I have often sat in a meeting where another man proudly flaunted my feathers. There will be many exceptions that prove the rule, but many studies have shown that women are simply more modest and will not quickly give themselves a compliment. That is unfortunate in many cases, but as a leader, it does make us more likable. To whom honor is due, and sharing is winning is our motto.
2. Share everything
I had a male manager who ‘suddenly’ told me that he hadn’t lived at home with his family for a month. I hadn’t noticed anything. Impossible for a woman. We share. Sometimes maybe too much (I really don’t need to know from everyone when they are menstruating or when they last had hard sex), but we are closer to each other. I try to park my children’s stories, but if someone has a birthday or swims out, I will surely tell that. That connects, and if we all do that, people also understand why you sometimes have a shorter fuse than usual.
”Okay, maybe we should learn something from each other here”
3. Don’t get angry
Men can sometimes go off the rails so wonderfully (although Renske can also do a bit of that). A little loud voice raising, a curse, and maybe a fist on the table. I have yet to meet the first woman who is like that. A point in favor of men is that they have let it all out and can approach you cleanly again. While we may not get angry so quickly but tend to bottle everything up until we get angry because someone forgot to put paper in the printer. Okay, maybe we should learn something from each other here.
4. How do we solve this
I have the feeling, but I’ll hear you if you don’t agree with me, that men often want to know who did something wrong and that women are more likely to ask the how-do-we-solve-this question. Then we’ll see later how we can prevent this in the future.
5. Attention
On your first day at work, there’s a card ready with a handwritten welcome note. I have a colleague whose father passed away not long ago, and he really liked a certain type of candy. If any of us see that candy (which is hardly sold anywhere), we buy it. That creates brotherhood, and I feel that your work feels more like home because of it, and you are there with more pleasure. And more pleasure leads to better results. Although it seems like there’s a thought behind everything. It’s not, but it makes you feel more appreciated.
