RELATIONSHIP STEPS
that we forget to celebrate
Official dating, living together, babies, getting married, and more are always recognized by everyone as Important Relationship Steps. But in doing so, we forget many smaller steps that may be just as Important, but strangely receive hardly any attention. In no particular order, these are the following things.
Having each other's wifi password
“Home is where the wifi connects automatically” is an age-old saying. And indeed, nothing is as nice as coming home and sitting on the wifi without thinking. There comes a moment when you are with your loved one so much that it becomes an expensive joke if you keep relying on your data plan, so you switch to his or her network. Aaah, now the other person's network is also a bit your network. #blessed
When you sleep together for the first time without having sex
In the beginning, it's all about constant bouncing, but there comes a night when you just sleep together comfortably – and also sleep alone. I find that very nice; it’s no longer just about sex but about simply being together. It's a step, you know. Champagne!
Because you've been at his place for three days and you’re almost bursting if you don’t go now now now. “If you gotta go, you gotta go”
When you have pooped for the first time with him around
Not that he necessarily has to be right there, but I mean more the first time you poop in his house while he is in the living room or bedroom. Because you've been at his place for three days and you’re almost bursting if you don’t go now now now. ‘If you gotta go, you gotta go,“ a friend of Jet always says, and that's how it is. Our sales director always immediately shouts ”MAGICAL“ when we talk about poop in the editorial office (which happens quite often), meaning she wishes to keep the whole thing of toilet visits magical because, girls don’t poop. I also find it difficult to let it go, but at some point, you are either together so much that you have to, or you are so comfortable with him that a little poop doesn’t throw you off your game.
When you do an external activity for the first time
without talking to each other
People always look at couples who are out to dinner or lunch and don’t exchange a word with pity. Personally, I always find it a very pleasant feeling when my partner and I don’t necessarily have to talk the whole time to have a good time. Sometimes it’s just wonderful to go out for lunch together, where you are fiddling with your phone a bit and he is reading a newspaper. That you are so comfortable with each other that you don’t feel the need to fill any silences and can just accept and embrace the silence. Wonderful.
In het begin zal er weinig ruzie zijn want “zucht oh hij is zo leuk en alles is zo leuk tralalalala”
The first argument
I don’t trust couples who never argue. Arguing is important and good for people. No one is SO perfect that every aspect of your personality exactly matches that of the other. So every now and then having a good argument, saying everything that’s on your mind, is refreshing. And that’s necessary. In the beginning, there will be little arguing because “sigh oh he is so nice and everything is so nice tralalalala”, but at some point, reality comes knocking and there are things that are just annoyingly irritating about him. And about you. And that’s fine, nothing wrong with that. It mainly means that you dare to say what you feel and that you find him important enough to make a point about something. More champagne!
Deleting Tinder or Happn
Because you’ve already found the cutest one, so you don’t need that flood of spam anymore. Polonaise!
