The biggest disappointment ever

THE DAY QUEEN B DISSED KIKI‘

Sometimes things happen that really hit hard. Situations you actually Never. More. Want. To. Talk. About, because your heart starts beating arrhythmically. I'm talking about the biggest deceptions of life. My biggest disappointment is about none other than Beyoncé.

Since I was little, I've had a girl crush on this artist of singing. Honestly: if I were a lesbian, I would immediately go for Queen B if that were even a possibility. In fact: my boyfriend would understand if I were to cheat with Beyoncé now and would probably even encourage it. And rightly so. My point is: I actually only have two women in my life that I look up to immensely and will always continue to do so. My dearest mom, and Beyoncé.

So close, and yet so far…

Now I see my mother quite often, Beyoncé not. But 2.5 years ago, there was a tiny sort of change in that. I was an intern at NU.nl and received an email with a question that made me spontaneously choke on my apple. “Hey, would you like to go to London to interview Beyoncé? She’s in a new movie. It’s in a few days, would you like that?” I thought it was a joke. It turned out to be anything but a joke. I think I’ve never screamed so hard. I was going to fucking interview Beyoncé in London. If I could just send my passport details so the ticket could be booked. A call with my mother, boyfriend, and best friend followed, of course, quickly. Just like the cigarette outside. After the joy smoke, suddenly the most important question popped into my head: what do you wear when you’re going to meet the best singer in the world?

How did this story end? She canceled last minute. She said NO. Because she was too busy with her world tour. I can feel a stroke coming on as I type this. So close, and yet so far… Well, I survived (except for a few panicked convulsions when the B-word comes up around me), but the fact that her manager didn’t offer me any psychological help after this rejection was a bit disappointing. So, for all the people facing big disappointments, let me help you out.

Tip 1: Stay calm

Breathe in, breathe out, and step away from the situation for a moment. Go get some fresh air to let more oxygen flow to your brain to think clearly. Ask yourself outside why something failed. Maybe there’s a reason behind it.

Tip 2: It will all be okay in the end

I get you: you want to scream, yell, be angry and intensely sad about The Terrible thing that has happened to you. But life just doesn’t always turn out the way you want it to. That hurts sometimes, but it’s also beautiful. Because sometimes things turn out very differently than expected and you still reach the same goal.

Tip 3: Try to take something positive from it

The biggest disappointments often turn out to be the biggest lessons. Reverse psychology can also work wonders. Try to turn that setback into a victory. Now, of course, I also saved bags full of euros because I didn’t have to buy an expensive designer dress for the meeting with Queen B. Duh.

Written by Kiki Düren