THIS IS HOW YOU FIX A BROKEN HEART

Crying beautifully is an art, especially when you get dumped. I cried so hard that my mother yelled in my ear to breathe. Yes, I was fourteen and I thought I would grow old with this man. You know how it is. But the serious heartbreak felt later like an internal bruise, which he kept poking for fun. A broken heart hurts, but with these 10 tips, you'll survive it.

Be careful with that new man

1. I’ve got your back. Make sure you have one or two friends to text if you want to send him something. Just let them know before you send a text bomb their way at three in the morning.
2. Put your heartache on paper. Write to him or to yourself or your aunt or whomever it may concern. And not a silly light note, but just what you feel. There you go, that paper up. Note to self: you don’t necessarily have to send this.
3. Accept that your life with him is no more. And that your life will be different. And that maybe that’s not so crazy after all. If you keep living in your life together, it will be extra hard to let go. You get it?
4. Make sure you have a mantra. And not the cheesy kind, but real Mahatma Gandhi material. A good daily quote gives you focus, so you don’t drift aimlessly in your own miserable sea. 
5. Name your emotion. Are you angry, sad, shocked? That’s okay. And don’t immediately look for an answer, but really soak in how you feel. If you don’t want to, you still have to do it once. 
6. Be careful with that new man. Distraction is good, but you also need to process it. If you throw yourself into that rebound, the blow will come after that fun. 
7. So you really do feel physical pain during a break-up, according to scientific research. A professor of clinical psychology at Yeshiva University even advises taking a paracetamol for heartbreak. I don’t, but that professor does.
8. A dose of yoga and meditation. You have all kinds of grounding poses to feel a bit more whole again. Do the Balasana. The what? Knees apart and hang comfortably in between. Just Google it. And if this isn’t your thing, just lie flat on your back on the floor and breathe a little. 
9. Bite the bullet, three months to be exact. That’s how long it takes before you function normally again. 
10. Go exercise. It’s good for your heart; literally and figuratively. And if you’re not the sporty type, then go for a walk. Come on, with your nose in the wind.

Source: Refinery29
Source image: Cathryn Lavery