This says something about you if you fantasize about someone else during sex

You're just having a great time flirting and rolling around with your love, and suddenly you think of that bald colleague who spoke to you at the coffee machine this morning. Oeioeieiei.

A sexy little fantasy about someone else; not really a problem in itself, but during a quickie? Is it okay to fantasize about someone else while you're riding your man wild, or is it really not acceptable?

There are so many

You certainly don't have to be ashamed, because research shows that as many as 61 percent of women sometimes fantasize about someone they've just met. Not even someone they really know. Men are even worse: as many as 90 percent sometimes think lustfully about someone else they've seen or spoken to that day. But you don't have to start throwing plates at home when you find this out, because in most cases, this is totally innocent. That pure lust is somewhat ingrained in us.

This is easily explained from an evolutionary perspective. To have a better chance of survival, you simply needed a partner The man protected you from wild animals, so to speak. So if yours left you or suddenly disappeared after a day of hunting, you needed a new flame within three seconds, otherwise that lion would eat you up. In short: you always keep looking for plan B for when your dear A leaves.

Not allowed

Moreover, it's a matter of deception. You know that you shouldn't really be thinking about that handsome guy from the train during a quickie with your husband. And that's exactly why you do it. Something about the pink elephant in the room – yes, as soon as you read this, you think about it. We get you.

But there is also an advantage to fantasizing, even if it seems so naughty. Because just because you let your thoughts run free for a moment, you won't actually do it in practice. And so you stay nice good, steady, and boring with your love. Of course, there is – as with everything – one tiny pitfall. That is: if you often think about the same man, you might want to have a little chat with your current partner. But that one time stripping the delivery guy's clothes off and giving him a good feel between the packages in the doorway? Sure. Go ahead, in your head.

FACTS

• Research shows that women most often fantasize about sex on the stairs. Men primarily fantasize about oral sex and threesomes.
• Of all animals, only dolphins actually enjoy sex. For all other animals, it's just a necessity.
• Hi, boss: we most often have a sexual fantasy at work. A laptop is also very arousing, eh, yes.