Why it always depends on you

Yes, you recognized yourself in that, right? I’m with you, sister (or brother, if you’re secretly reading along). But this weekend it happened again. And I say ‘again’ because it’s not the first time I’ve stumbled into that pitfall. That you set up a plan with a huge group, which is all extraordinarily feasible with that manpower, but you’re the one who’s in trouble when it needs to be executed. You have this kind of debacle in birthday form, the party variant, between office walls and on event scale. There you are again, cleaning up or finishing the mess of your companions. ‘But how then?’, you’re still thinking. Just in case you think that these kinds of situations only play out in your head; it’s real and it has a name: social loafing. You perform even twenty percent worse in a group than individually. Or well, when it comes to pulling things together, but it has been proven. Scientifically.

Humans work less hard in a team. That theory is as old as Methuselah, because scientists already knew that a century ago. But do you actually know why that is? It’s the fault of the result. When you do something in your Remi, you see exactly the result of your hard work and the nights spent with matches between your eyelids. Yes, you feel it already. When you do a task together, it’s just so much mwah measurable how hard you’ve worked and the necessity to perform decreases for the human. So without the honor, you do nothing more or perhaps a little less. If you’re a typical group animal or a woman (I knew it, I knew it, I knew it), then you tend to hold back the proverbial mustache less quickly. Goodness gracious, we’re already 1-0 behind from the start.

Now you know how it comes, it’s really not your fault. But if you can tick off these traits on your list, then you have a chance that you’re solving the group’s troubles a little more often.

Let it goooooo

Do you have trouble letting go? No, of course you don’t. But do you think it at least happens well when you do something yourself? Okay, then I can reveal to you now that you have trouble letting go.

Helping hands

Maybe you have the trait that you always help everyone. Then it’s in your nature. You can’t do anything about it again, but it’s awkward. The plus side is that you feel good when you help someone out of trouble, so at least you gain something from it yourself.

Troubleshooter

You take care of it. Period. You’re of the delicious no-nonsense caliber and then you’re just sweeping while the rest is already having coffee. But the no-nonsense cleaners can still sometimes give a little jab under the water to the coffee drinkers.

It will be alright, sweetheart

Well, let me tell you something. It’s not going to be alright if you don’t take care of it. You panic at the word ‘sweetheart’ combined with ‘it will be alright’ just a little extra, because you know that ‘alright’ is miles away from sight if you don’t get to work quickly.

Can’t doesn’t exist

‘No, that’s not going to work’ or ‘it can’t be delivered on time’. This is my red rag (and okay, maybe some of the other above). Even if I have to go to Lutjebroek to pick it up, everything is possible. Especially if it’s an organizational hassle, where one delivers and the other takes. If the first says ‘No’? Then you just make another call. And that’s exactly what I do: call. Just to solve it.

But you know what? This type of person recognizes the other from ten kilometers away and then you get all sorts of bonding-like craziness from that. After all, you are a group person...

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