Why men fake

(Ya-ha, so do they!)

The common cliché surrounding faking, of course, is that women in particular do it. For example, because we don't dare say he's completely wrong. Or when he is impatient and you can't bear to hear the question “Are you almost coming?” for the tenth time. Or when you are insecure about yourself and think that, like in the (erotic) movies, you should be screaming with pleasure within ten minutes. Or a combination of all that. Anyway. That mostly women fake orgasms from time to time is indeed quite true. But guess what, men can do something about it too.

Scientific studies consistently find that between 60 and 70 per cent of women have ever pretended to cum (pssst, this is the sacred combination for a Big O) . A survey of 230 men between the ages of 18 and 29 proved that 30 per cent regularly (yes, regularly!) faked an orgasm. What? Not just during sex-sex, but thanks to some magic trick, they also flicked it during oral and hand jobs.

Two key questions. Number one is: how then! Number two is: why then!

How then!

Faking is easier for women than for men. Yes, you have to do your best impersonation of Megan Ryan in ‘When Harry Met Sally’, but at least there is no ‘evidence’ missing that can prove you are a faker. Although - fun fact - men don't always leave ‘marks’ at climax, in 99.99% of cases they do. Pretty clever if your female bed partner doesn't notice this. Yet it is possible apparently; for example, when a condom is used. No woman is going to inspect that rubber thing after the deed is complete. The faking man can just throw this empty rubber straight into the bin.

Why then!

We basically say: don't settle for faking. Don't even settle for one highlight. We tell you here why. Anyway, yet many women and therefore men do. Why is that? In fact, for almost the same reasons as women. It is from insecurity. For example: when he thinks he is taking too long. Or when he has come too early, but is happy to persevere and fails a second round. Also in drunk status when he (or you) really aren't going to get the job done. Or because he feels the pressure at the same time to get his happy ending with you and doesn't want to hurt his sweetheart. Secretly sweet though!

Still, our advice is: faking doesn't make anyone better. How to get better in bed, we reveal here.