5x First aid for a Quick Jelle between the sheets

Unfortunately, we've all encountered him at some point: the Quickie. That's quite a bummer, because you're left with the short end of the stick (no pun intended). There you are after a few minutes: unsatisfied and frustrated. While he lies on one ear, you lie there with unanswered tingles between your legs. So what now? Getting angry is not the way to go, unless you want to put an end to the relationship right away. How do you deal with a one minute man? LotteLust explains it.

‘Premature ejaculation’, as it is very clinically called, is really ‘his problem’ according to psychologists and sexologists. This means that you are not the cause and he is the one who can solve it. However, you can make him aware of the issue and help him out a bit. Here’s how you do it:

Practice makes perfect

Men who finish too early often cannot sense when they are about to climax. And when they do sense it, it’s already too late to ease off. For this, he needs to start ‘practicing’, preferably alone. You can help him with this too. Pay close attention to his body language during foreplay. When you see that he is almost on the edge, you should take a short break. While he cools down for a moment, he can pamper you with his hands or mouth, so you also get your share. Also take a look at how you can come together by delaying his orgasm and speeding up your orgasm.

Be subtle

Most men may not say it quickly, but they really do know when they have crossed the finish line too soon. Still, there are a few who are clueless. They are the worst to work with. They think that everything is fine, while you rate your sex life a big zero. Although many men are allergic to ‘communicating’, it is essential with that small group of ignorant ones. You do need to ring the bell, but be subtle about it. Don’t say: “Hey, what about me?” or something like “Jesus, man. Already?! Is there a football game on or something?” Nope. Choose your words carefully, because the male ego is extremely fragile.

Positions

Not only is it important to keep changing positions, but you can also reduce the chance of a too-short session by avoiding sensitive positions. One position is more sensitive for him than the other. Try these 3 positions.

Evaluation

Take a moment to see when he has trouble with an early exit. Is it during morning, afternoon, or evening sex, with certain positions, or when he has been drinking? If you can find a pattern in this, you can figure out what influences it.

Also read these practical tips on how to delay his orgasm.