6X quality time with your loved one

Research shows that couples have a net of seven (yes, SEVEN, SEVEN) minutes a day for each other. And also that urgent but unimportant matters always take precedence over important but non-urgent matters. Such as: drinking two bottles of wine together, talking about life, having a fit of giggles, and a bit of romance. That's why you plan 6x quality time like this.

1. Be alone

Sounds extremely contradictory, but if you occasionally have time for a bath, a mask, and toenail polish sessions or a book, you are refreshed and not exhausted when with your partner. Otherwise, the chance is high that you crash on the couch and even lifting your head from the armrest is too much effort.

2. Schedule it

My girlfriend once had a boss who blocked Thursday evenings in his calendar for his wife. When she asked if they could call that evening to go over a file, he replied: ‘Then we always have sex.’ Words my girlfriend will never forget. And neither will I. But still. If it's in the calendar, it's there, and what is important but not urgent becomes urgent. Because agenda item.

3. Leave something else aside

Are you too busy for one-on-one time? Look at your list and think about what you can cross off. You can definitely vacuum one time less; you won't see that by candlelight. I have chosen to always have my groceries delivered. Saves us two precious hours and a lot of sighing on our precious Saturday. So you probably have something you can arrange differently.

4. Kiss for a long time

According to relationship therapists, the movie kiss is a great weapon against boredom in your relationship. Not your ritual goodnight or how-was-your-day kiss, but just kissing for 45 seconds. Just wait and see how your day will turn out.

5. Don't take time away

Don't promise your children that your partner will cook dinner with them later or that he/she will take them to ballet somewhere. Or that you canceled his friends‘ pub night because he has to go to a ten-minute meeting. Let him decide for himself. Say: ’Thursday is the ten-minute meeting, but you have your regular pub night then. I can only go if you want, but I would appreciate it if you are there.' Then it comes across differently, and you'll see that he will skip his night out for a week. He can keep himself busy with his bar bucket list.

6. Go away for a weekend together Ask if children and pets can stay somewhere. Maybe not all at one address, but divide it up and offer the return. A weekend without an alarm clock, hockey, soccer, parties, and bickering. Talking without being interrupted, taking a bath in the afternoon, having a fit of giggles again... And boosting that average of seven minutes a day. Just wait and see how happy that makes you. Will you schedule it in today?

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