After so many months together, your sex life becomes a lot less hot and spicy

If you're skipping over pink clouds and spontaneously lose three kilos because you're too nervous to swallow a bite in his presence: just enjoy it.

Because unfortunately, that infatuated phase is over quickly. The treacherous side of a new love. The dark cloud that hangs over every pink cloud. In the beginning, you can't keep your hands off each other. His body has an attraction that makes you feel dizzy. You can only think about sex here and sex there, touching each other and lying naked in bed all day. He feels the same. You discover all the positions, actually use French kissing as foreplay, and you bounce around like bunnies. Four times in one day is no exception, not at all. On the weekend, you can barely walk from all the hopping. You think this will last forever. Yes, for you it will. That your girlfriends sometimes complain about too little sex, ha! Poor souls. You constantly find each other. They could learn a thing or two from you, ha! No dark clouds in sight. Until…

Look, we don't want to sound bitter, but it's proven: after just twelve measly months, it's finito with that love-filled world of puppies and hearts and sleepless nights. Your sex life with your new catch becomes a lot less hot. In fact: after a year, there's hardly anything left of a wild sex life. You sleep in bed. Eight, nine hours long.

You actually have less and less sex. The longer you watch are together, the less action takes place between your legs, usually. And that's actually unavoidable. Yes, of course, you can still make an effort, that's nice, but the fact that it happens less naturally than in the first year of the relationship is a fact. On average, Dutch people in a relationship have sex about once a week. On average. So there are also those who do it less often than that.

Well, and then? The fireworks between the sheets are gone, hello washing the sheets together and neatly making the bed. Other things take their place. Suddenly, you have deep conversations about the philosophy of life with a good glass of wine, say, on the couch. While you munch on cheese and onion chips and thus gain those three kilos without any problem. But don't worry, because it's very normal for this to happen in a love life. It actually shows that you fit well together and that you also survive after that rainbow-glitter time. It happens to the best of us. But try to leave that big pajama in the closet every now and then and dive into it enthusiastically. And why not four times in a row? Just for old times' sake.

FACTS

• A headache is not an excuse: when you have sex, it often actually reduces headaches.
• Men think about sex 150 times a day, women only 39 times.
• Twenty percent of women have had sex at work – half of them do it with the boss.