Agenda sex, yes or no? This is what the sexpert thinks

But true: every couple reaches a point in the relationship where sex is no longer a regular occurrence in the week... or month... or... Work, social obligations, kids, and – to be honest – Netflix extinguish the fire in the bedroom. Time and again, it’s ‘we’ll do it tomorrow’. What to do? Scheduled sex sounds like a great solution, but in practice, it’s not really sexy. LotteLust investigated whether it really works.

Top or flop?

“If there’s no plan, then sex will likely fall by the wayside and you won’t get to it,” explains sexologist Dr. Laura Deitsch. “That can cause all sorts of problems, including resentment towards each other. Planning sex is a great idea. Having children doesn’t have to take away spontaneity. It just needs to be created in a different way.”

Early foreplay

Is scheduled sex boring? It doesn’t have to be. You can look forward to one day a week that is really just for you and your partner. It actually builds a lot of sexual tension and that benefits your sex life. Suppose Friday is your free day, then send a sexy text a few hours before you see each other. Think of: “I forgot my panties today” or: “I’m in the mood for you,” or one of these spicy messages.

Furthermore, you can create ‘spontaneity’ by coming up with something new each time. An exciting new sex location, a different position, a new sex toy. You name it. This way, you keep it exciting and you can look forward to what new things you’re going to try.