Bedroom habits that lead to meh sex

Sex is a bit like pizza. If it's not the best, it's still pretty good. But it can always be better and tastier. Could your sex life use a little spice? Often it's a matter of saying goodbye to routines and habits. LotteLust tells you how and what.

No initiative

Often one of the two is the one who suggests sex most often. If you're not that person, make sure you don't wait too often for your partner to want it. Be the initiator and lure your love out of their shell. This alone works wonders for the tension between you. How do you do that? Check these tips.

Routine work

One of the nicest advantages of a long relationship is also a pitfall, namely that you feel very comfortable with each other. You naturally fall into a certain division of roles. While that can work out well outside the bedroom, it creates a high boredom factor between the sheets. To start... try not doing it between the sheets, but on the dining table, the counter, or in the shower, and vary each time with new positions.

Being insecure

That's really unnecessary. We all have cellulite, stretch marks, and a pimple in an embarrassing place. Not liking these things is okay, but as long as it doesn't stop you from enjoying sex. That's easier said than done, of course. Read also these 10 tips on how to become more confident in bed. A whole new world will open up for you.

No (dirty) talk

How nice would it be if the other could look into your head. Then they would know that you don't like that whispering in your ear and that your hotspot is just a little higher. Fortunately, you can get quite far by – very simply – communicating during sex. This can just be during the act, with some subtle dirty talk. Louder or softer, faster or slower, higher or lower; a little encouraging word here or there does a lot of good.

Only giving/taking

Create a balance between what you give and what you take in bed. Although one may reach a climax more easily and it takes you a little longer, that doesn't mean your orgasm is a neglected child. Besides your partner's efforts, you can also apply these 7 techniques to come more easily (and enjoyably).