Important for good sex: afterplay is the new foreplay

Anyone who still thinks that kissing before a romp is a must is living a bit in the past. Foreplay is over and done with. Afterplay, that's what you want.

Getting in the mood is so easy and before you know it, you're already really engaged in the act itself. That whole teasing and tickling right before sex is now quite overrated. Go for it. with your new or old flame and when you do it, you also quickly go for the real romp. A few minutes of cuddling is long enough. But what is now incredibly trendy is afterplay. In other words: cuddling, sweet talking, and sticking together afterwards.

It's important for your relationship that you say something to each other while you're lying there catching your breath. Just falling asleep right away... is so unkind. Hold each other for a moment, stroke each other's hair, and yes, enjoy this whole afterplay. Why is it so much better than foreplay? You are at this moment, just after sex, a little more in love than ever. You have experienced something so intimate together just a few moments ago, that it has brought you close together again. You feel happy. He does too. You can make the most of this now. Say something sweet to each other, laugh a little about the fact that you secretly bumped your head quite hard against the wall, and just enjoy being together. Your entire love life benefits from it. When you leave for work the next morning, you literally feel like you're back on a sexy glitter cloud.

In short: do about everything you would do before sex, but after sex. Much better moment. The tension is gone, the air is cleared, and you are tired and satisfied. The moment to be romantic.

FACTS

• Both men and women find 18 minutes long enough for some foreplay.
• If you have sex for longer than 20 minutes, there is a 72 percent chance that a woman will have an orgasm.
• If you spend half an hour on all that exciting foreplay, you burn 280 calories. Okay, okay, come on then.