This is what happens to your sex life when you move in together
… it stops existing. End of article.
No, just kidding. It's not that bad. Now that we've set your expectations very low, we can honestly tell you what really happens to your sex life when you start cohabiting. When you settle down with your loved one, everything changes in your relationship. You suddenly go to the toilet with the door open, your razor goes into retirement, and you suddenly prefer to take a walk in the woods on Sunday morning rather than lying around recovering from a wild Saturday night. All signs that living together is going well. Cohabiting is a lot of fun, but the only downside is that your sex life really takes a hit. LotteLust explains what happens…
The sex surge
In the honeymoon phase of cohabitation, you will be diving into each other more often than before. You are, of course, intensely happy that you both have taken the next step in the relationship. And well, every room in the house needs to be thoroughly inaugurated…
Less desire
Gradually, that wave of sex ebbs away and life goes back to its routine. Gone are the spontaneous make-out sessions on the couch and the romantic, lazy Sunday where you lie tangled up together all day. You do it less and less often, and at some point, your desire diminishes as well. Since you see each other every day, the urgency to dive into each other isn't that high. Oh, we're so tired, we'll do it tomorrow. And tomorrow becomes the day after tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow becomes the weekend, and so on. Because you go so little, your libido adjusts accordingly. With these tips, you increase sexual tension between you.
Sex agenda
Once you've established together that your sex life is going through a significant dip, you come to the conclusion that scheduled sex is the next step. What you once found so silly, you suddenly start doing. Planned sexy time can be a great solution for many couples, but it can also lead to the most unpassionate encounter you could ever wish for, which decreases your desire for sex even more. And the result: a vicious circle. If you want to have sex more often… this simple trick works wonders.
Regular p(r)ick
Aside from scheduled sex, many cohabiting couples have their regular time for sex. The day and time when it works best to ‘get one off’ is different for each couple. Some find Sunday morning ideal. For others, Saturday morning is the highlight (haha).
Trying new things
The lack of a weekly romp also brings something positive. When you realize that binge-watching Netflix is becoming the main thing and sex is becoming the side thing, you start trying new things together to break the routine. New places, different positions, special sex techniques, toys, and maybe even multiple bed partners are all thrown into the mix to spice things up in bed. And that's just great. Every couple has less sex when they settle down, and that's completely normal. So no worries, we'll tell you here how to keep it exciting when you start living together.
