This is what you should look for in a guy when you are an alpha woman
As long as I can remember, I have the alpha gene. According to my mother, I was already delegating and pointing at other little kids in the sandbox, telling them where to scoop the sand from and who should stand where. On the work floor, that alpha gene is super handy, but in relationships, it can be a bit tricky. For men, it can sometimes be intimidating; not every man is suited for this. What can I share with all the alpha women after almost ten years with the same person? Make sure you snag a guy who possesses these qualities:
He must be able to tame you
You enjoy leadership, you like being the teacher, the boss, the leader. But it’s important that your lover knows when to step in. Resistance is key. If Sander hadn’t told me that the pink plush chair was NOT coming into the living room, the whole house would probably be pink by now. You don’t need a yes-man as an alpha, because before you know it, you’ll bulldoze right over the other person.
He gives you space
As an alpha woman, you cherish your independence. You are strong, resourceful, and solve problems easily. If he constantly tries to solve your problems and wants to take over, it suffocates you. When you get the space to do everything on your own, you excel the most.
Letting go is holding on
Is he going to complain when you go out with your girlfriends (or on vacation)? Nope, ain’t gonna work for an alpha. It’s important for you to be with a partner who gives you freedom. You also find it ten times sexier when he goes out with the boys than when he waits at home for you.
He doesn’t get jealous
Alpha women are not wallflowers. We naturally attract attention. And if we don’t get it, we take it. What doesn’t match well with that is a guy you don’t trust and who seems to want to keep you ‘small’ socially. A little healthy jealousy now and then is okay, but it’s important that your love finds the right balance and never stifles you.
He must be your calm point
You have a busy social life. With all the stimuli you experience daily, it’s wonderful to come home to a man who brings the right calmness. He helps you stand with both feet on the ground, which you, as an alpha, sometimes really need.
You must be able to learn from each other
You are always looking for a new challenge, even in your relationship. But you’re probably also a stubborn little brat. My biggest tip? See what it does to your relationship when you truly want to learn from each other and dare to do so. Be open to each other and let him surprise you.
Good luck, alpha chicks.
