Struggling to climax?
5 golden tips
Sad but true. Women often end up on the short end of the stick (no pun intended) between the sheets. Only 65 percent reach a climax during sex. In comparison, that number is 95 percent for men. 10 to 15 percent of women have never even climaxed. It's truly heartbreaking. But there's no reason to panic; there is hope. You can learn to orgasm, and you do that with these 5 tips from LotteLust.nl.
Know your body
Your bed partner can't read your mind. If only it were that easy. You first need to discover what your hotspots are and in what order you prefer them. It's up to you to experiment at home, alone or with vibrating tools. Once you know how your body works, you can more easily guide yourself and your sex partner to your explosive finish. Also check the tips for better solo sex.
Foreplay
Sexperts say that women need at least twenty minutes to get sufficiently in the mood. Foreplay is therefore key. You need to warm up before you play a match, right? Start with a bit of cuddling, kissing, and let yourself be massaged. Then take your time for manual and oral stimulation. You'll notice it helps!
Focus
You think yourself into an orgasm, but it works the other way around too. This means that your thoughts can sabotage your happy ending. Stress and negative thoughts are the big enemies; you need to set them aside during a sexual encounter. Difficult? Yes. Make sure the bedroom (or wherever you do it) is tidy and that you've completed your to-do list. Put on some sultry music (think: The Weeknd) and pay attention to your breathing.
Breathing
We actually underestimate how powerful the right breathing is, even though it directly influences how you feel. ‘Just take a deep breath’ is what they always say in times of stress. This can also come in handy in bed. By first breathing slowly and deeply and then quickly and shallowly, you'll reach that Big O faster. Read here how that works.
Relax
Focusing and relaxing? Yes, that’s possible. You relax your body so your mind can focus on your body. If you're lying there with tense muscles, you can't enjoy. To achieve an orgasm, you need to be able to ‘let go’.
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