Sex addiction among women
Many people think that a sex addiction mainly occurs among men. But women can also be affected. In fact, more and more women have this addiction.
Currently, Katja Schuurman is in the news. The reason? She is said to have been admitted to a clinic for sex addicts. Or rather, that's what the gossip press claims. Katja can hardly believe that something like this is being said about her.
She expresses on Instagram: “Would the bizarre minds that throw absurd rumors into the world, and all those who call themselves journalists, please consider that I have parents and a daughter. I appreciate sex, I love intimacy, like most healthy people. I have been more open about it than most (that was once), but do not confuse my pleasure with something as serious as addiction. If that is addiction, then I hope I never recover from it.”
So, Katja is certainly not one of them. But that doesn't mean there aren't women who ‘suffer from this’. What exactly is it? You need constant gratification, you want constant sex with someone else, you watch a lot of porn, do a lot with yourself to get through the day, and you fantasize a lot about sex. Those are some characteristics of an addiction, but if you naturally have a week where you feel more inclined than usual, then there's nothing strange about that.
According to psychologists, women have sex addictions with a different approach than men. They seek attention, confirmation. Men seek more power, a kind of ‘gain’. Men see it as a game they must win, while women often see it as something innocent. As a kind of love and lust. While women can also have sex multiple times a day and still not be satisfied. The official term is ‘compulsive sexual behavior’.
It is no longer just occasionally, for intimacy, but it is a compulsive process. It must happen every day, multiple times, with anyone. With the regular partner or not. Meeting via sex apps in an alley. About 3-6 percent of people have a sex addiction. It can also remain at watching porn or fantasizing, but usually, the act itself is done very often. And that must happen more and more to feel the same ‘high’. This is how it works with addiction to alcohol or drugs, for example. The more you get, the more you want. And then it gets out of hand and becomes a problem you can't get rid of. Not without help.
It may sometimes sound funny, wanting too much sex as a woman: it's something different than wanting too little. Yet it is an official disorder that is simply listed in the DSM (the manual for psychologists and psychiatrists). That it occurs more frequently among women has been confirmed in recent years. Psychologists even talk about ‘the biggest change in human sexuality in the history of our species’. The problem is mainly the taboo surrounding it. That women do not dare to seek help because they are ashamed of their behavior. But that is exactly what they should do: talk to a professional about it. Because it is good to heal: coming out is already half the process.
After that, cognitive behavioral therapy can help, for example, to learn to think differently: you do not need sex to feel happy. You then learn to derive your happiness from other things in life. You learn that you are also worth a lot even if you haven't seduced a man on Tuesday afternoon.
But what I mainly want to express is that I find it unacceptable that such things are written about Katja. Claiming something like that about someone, gossip press or not, is simply not okay. You can't do that – she is, after all, in a yoga retreat for her peace. And, as she herself says: she has a daughter. How dare you write such texts, sex addictions here and there? My goodness. I just hope her little girl reads very few news articles.
Source: Medical News Today
