These tips will help you score the perfect candidate for a threesome

A threesome, ménage à trois or simply sex with three: whatever you call it, a threesome is probably also on your sex bucket list. Logical too, because it is exciting and just outside your comfort zone. But how do you actually get the right candidate to have such a long-cherished fantasy share?

Three bodies in one bed: it's often the dream when it comes to sex, but for some, it also stays there. Sad, but understandable. One of the big challenges is finding a third bed partner. Where do you conjure up that extra sex buddy? Not to worry, we give you some handy tips.

Mindset

OK, so you've decided you're open to a ménage à trois. Top! Now it's time to take action. Unless you get lucky and spontaneously fall head over heels in body parts, you obviously have to put in some effort to score a nice match. Or two, if you're single. So that for once that tipsy evening ends differently than in the bed of your hookup or that cute guy from the pub. After all, sex between three people doesn't often happen to people who live their lives by the book, but rather to those who don't take it all that seriously. Yes, we are talking about the so-called ‘fuck it’ mentality. Of course, you do eventually have to take the step to actually end up in bed with the three of you, but the environment you are in will help you along.

Swipe around

In case your environment doesn't quite lend itself to certain types who might be open to a threesome, luckily there are always dating apps. And yes, you can also use them if you are looking for a third person in bed. This way, you and your lover can discover what you would both be interested in while swiping. Conveniently, you can get to know the third person-to-be via chat, which might take some of the tension away from you. Even if you are a single lady looking for a nice couple to hook up with. first trio with it, dating apps are very handy. Let it be known in your bio that you are open to a ménage à trois and you are ready for the unknown.

Ensure clarity

Of course, as long as your relationship with your lover is stable enough, you can also choose to ask an acquaintance to join you. It may not sound very sexy, but it is necessary: make rules. Especially when you and your sweetheart embark on a three-person sex party with a friend or a girlfriend joining you, it's helpful that you are aware of what is and what is not allowed. This is nice not only for you as a couple, but also for the third person engaging in the lovemaking. After all, as long as you agree in advance on who gets to do what to each other (e.g. which these positions) - and what especially not - because you exclude the biggest risk of a threesome: jealousy. And that leaves nothing but plenty of room for relaxation and, above all, fun.