So you become a star in cowgirl
Are you team underneath? In other words: do you prefer to be led during love making? No problemo of course. Missionary and the Viennese oyster are classics for a good reason, but a little (read: a lot) variation keeps your sex life fresh and fruity. Take the reins from your bed partner(s). LotteLust teaches you the fine points of being a cowgirl.
Just do it
‘Being ’on top‘ is not that easy. If you're not used to being the one who does ’the work‘, it can take some getting used to. Rhythm, depth, and speed: you have it all in your hands. Although it can be very nice, it can also be a bit exciting. The question ’am I doing it right?' comes up for many women when they are on top during sex. It's a matter of just doing it. You don't have to be insecure about anything, men love this position. All they have to do is lie back and enjoy the view.
Self-confidence
As a girl on top, you are completely in the spotlight. Honestly: that can be scary for some. It doesn't get any better if you're insecure about your body or your bedroom skills. How do you increase your confidence in bed? ‘Being proud of yourself and your body, giving yourself compliments, but also receiving compliments from others or your partner can help your confidence grow,’ advises LotteLust sexologist Marjolein. ‘Don't compare yourself to others and be realistic, because people are simply different. You can't compare apples to oranges. Remember that you are on top of your partner and he probably likes seeing you there.’ Once you get the girl on top down and can enjoy it without worries, you'll feel mega empowered.
Vary and try
Variation is key for fun, exciting sex. The girl on top position has different variants. For example, you can simply sit on top of him facing him with your lower legs flat on the bed. In that position, you can move both up and down and back and forth. Sometimes it's also nice to make circular movements. For men, the up-and-down movement is the most pleasant, as his glans is optimally stimulated. Many women enjoy moving their hips from front to back. This is because both the G-spot and the glans clitoris (the external part of your clitoris) are stimulated in this way.
It is also possible to place your feet flat and move up and down. This position is very nice if you enjoy the feeling of deep penetration. This position is more intense and therefore difficult to maintain for a long time. Take your time to try out these girl on top positions and see what works for you/you both. And above all: enjoy the ride!
