How to become confident in bed

Lying naked in bed with a new flame, you are at your most vulnerable. All sorts of negative thoughts can race through your mind. Is that one pimple noticeable? Are my breasts too small? Am I doing everything right? No need to worry. But that's easier said than done, of course. How do you boost your confidence? LotteLust.co.uk know advice.

Research

Read a sexy story, watch an exciting video, or read an article with sex tips. Learn more about sex by actively seeking out that information. The more you get used to erotic texts and images, the more normal you will find it and the more comfortable you will feel between your sheets. And those tips will definitely come in handy. On LotteLust.co.uk you will find this info all specially selected for women.

Lingerie

A faded, too large pair of underwear is not sexy, even for a Victoria’s Secret model. Stylish lingerie can really do a lot for your confidence. Put on your brave shoes and go to a (web)store with luxury lingerie sets. Don’t know what to shop for? Black lace is always a good choice: it looks good on every woman.

Well-groomed

Physical insecurities like cellulite cannot just disappear in an instant. To feel as good as possible in your skin, you can do a number of other things. Everyone feels better after a refreshing shower. Wash your hair clean and treat it with a conditioner. Clean yourself thoroughly from your crown to your little toe. Shave what you want to shave. Afterwards, generously apply a nourishing body lotion or oil to your skin. Bet you’ll feel a lot sexier?

Communication

It gives a real confidence boost when you notice that you are pleasing him or her during sex. To do that, you need to know what the other person wants between the sheets. Do you have no idea if your moves are working with your bed partner and does that make you insecure? Ask for feedback. We know: that sounds very scary. Communication is very important for enjoyable sex on both sides. Just do it, it’s worth it.

Focus

Do you catch yourself having negative thoughts while you are doing it? Many women struggle with this. This can prevent you from fully enjoying sex. Quickly push those thoughts out of your head. It’s difficult, but really try to concentrate less on what’s going on in your head at that moment. Instead, focus on your body and what you feel, and you will naturally feel good about your skills. In our orgasm guide ‘Are you coming too?’ we tell you more about how to do this.

Confidence is one of the must-haves for good sex. Want to know what the other ways are to become good in bed? Then read these tips from LotteLust.