Together to the top? Here's how you do it!
Now the word of 2019: orgasm gap. Heterosexual men orgasm almost three times as often as heterosexual women during sex. Unfair? Hell yes! One of the solutions is for women to take matters into their own hands. You can start by experiencing your climax together more often. Easier said than done, and that's why LotteLust gives three golden tips.
Long foreplay
Why? Women generally need more time to ‘warm up’ in bed. For many men, it's a matter of up and away, while we ladies need about twenty minutes to become fully aroused. This varies from woman to woman, of course. Long foreplay is a must because the biggest female pleasure spot is at stake. And by foreplay, we mean pampering with tongue and/or fingers for you. Make sure you're almost at the brink and then get to it together. Need inspiration? Check these 7 foreplay ideas.
Know your spots
The clitoris, with its 8,000 nerve endings, is of course the hotspot for women. Additionally, every woman has her own user manual to reach her Big O. To come together, not only you but also he needs to be aware of which moves and spots make you see stars. You can demonstrate this, but also give non-verbal and verbal cues. How? It's easier than you think. With simple hints like ‘harder’ and “softer’ or ‘up’ and ‘down’, you'll get quite far. Also use your voice to moan to indicate that you're almost at the finish. Also read these 7 super tips to come faster.
Choose the right positions
The best position is of course the one that feels good for both of you. Sixty-nine is a good example of this. You both get what you want, and if necessary, one of the two can ease off so the other can ‘catch up’. Coming together can also happen during sex-sex. Given that only a quarter of women can orgasm from penetration, your clit needs attention to achieve a duo-orgasm. Therefore, choose positions where you or he has easy access to your clit with fingers or a toy. For example, doggy style, cowgirl (that's how you become a queen in girl on top), missionary, or the Viennese oyster. Do keep in mind which position makes it easiest for you to orgasm. Is that sitting, squatting, or lying on your back or stomach?
Ready, set, go!
Want to know everything about the female orgasm and how to further reduce the orgasm gap? LotteLust wrote the orgasm guide ‘Are you coming too?’ for all women – and men – who want to know and learn everything about the orgasm.
