stupid jealous thoughts that we all have sometimes

Wanting something that someone else has is not a bad thing, but sometimes there’s a fine line between jealousy and envy. Before you completely tear yourself down because you disgust yourself, it might be good to know that we all struggle with the green monster sometimes. This is what we all think but don’t say.

‘Yeah, easy for you to say, if I had such rich parents…’
Another nasty one from humanity, actually. Secretly having an immediate judgment about someone else's money. Let’s be clear that pretty much everything in life becomes easier when there is money available, but it ultimately only helps you on your way. A good network, good skills, and a likability factor cannot be bought.

‘How can THEY afford that house?’
Maybe they are good savers. Maybe they choose to cook at home often instead of eating out. Maybe they hardly go on vacation. Maybe we shouldn’t have any opinion about that at all.

‘Eh, what does he see in her?’
You know the feeling, an ex who has a new girlfriend. You just can’t wrap your head around it. She’s probably a really sweet girl, but fundamentally you’ve already labeled her as a witch. Very childish, and you know it, but the feeling is stronger than you.

‘What can he/she actually do?’
How many people must have thought this about the Kardashians… Kim knew from a young age: I want to be famous. And so it became a goal to take as many photos with Paris Hilton as possible and to attend all the parties. In interviews, she is quite open about it. For example, if she read that Britney Spears was spotted by paparazzi in a certain hotel, she would rush over there to have a cup of coffee. And when she walked out the door, it looked just like she had an appointment with La Spears. Extremely sad or a woman with a goal, it just depends on how you look at it, doesn’t it?

‘He/She really gets everything handed to them’
Ooh, this is a bitter one. Yes, career-wise you can easily feel a little jealousy creeping in. People who achieve success after success in a short time can make you doubt your own abilities. What you don’t see is that the person in question works hard every weekend. What you should think about is what you can change in YOUR life to be there one day too.

Ah jealousy… It’s a dragon sometimes. I would say: use it as motivation to find out what you would like for yourself. And maybe even nicer to realize: sometimes you are jealous of something that is presented in a much rosier way. That one ‘perfect’ couple on Instagram, who fight like crazy at home, or that Insta-girl with her so-called dream life, who is sitting on the couch with a burnout.

A little jealousy in a relationship is healthy, but envy towards someone else is often unnecessary. Don’t let the green monster bring you down and try to work together with the people you look up to. You’ll see how many doors will open for you. You’re too good for envy.