Why arguing over nothing with your partner is a good idea

‘#^$^@! Where is that extra pacifier?’ The bickering over nothing is currently the reality in our house.

Because we are tired. Very tired. Babies waking up every two hours is asking to be exhausted and consequently leads to snappiness at home. Ultimately, sleep is your foundation for a bit of a pleasant mood and when sleep is lacking, you have a short fuse. This is how my husband and I regularly argue about misplaced pacifiers, the wallpaper for the nursery that hasn’t arrived yet, a package for the neighbors that has been sitting in our hallway for a week. ‘You were supposed to ring the bell at 62 on the third floor?’ ‘No, you. I’m already looking for that pacifier.’ Fighting over the least interesting things. That the coffee pods are almost out and who is supposed to reorder them and who is home to answer the door. Who is going to start the photo album for Bodi and Daaf. That there is water in the bathroom after showering. ‘Are you doing water ballet again these days?’ That I cut the tag off a new shirt in the kitchen because that’s where the scissors are, and then that tag from Zara ends up in that kitchen drawer.

Still, a bit of nitpicking over actually nothing is quite good for your relationship. Ultimately, a bit of bickering feels nice because it relieves tension. Bottling up irritations is, in the long run, disastrous for your love life because then everything explodes after a while. It’s better to express small things. Because it’s precisely those small things that the other can easily work on. easily. For example, I recently just, seriously, neatly tossed a whole label from H&M into the trash can in the kitchen. He saw it. He observed it. He looked at me. And laughed. Because you understand: this is a thing in our house.

If you have a big fight, a lot gets thrown at each other’s heads. But then you don’t know where to start. If you discuss small irritations, you can get rid of them a bit faster. This applies to both sides. So, darling, my old water ballerina: I’ll ring the bell at 62 on the second floor, you stick that wallpaper on the wall. Then we won’t have anything else to argue about.

Ah, romance, it can be so simple.

Source: The Guardian