Why you should take your intuition seriously

Meanwhile, my beloved listens to me when I say that I ‘don't have a good feeling about someone’. In the past, he found it difficult not to accept someone because I thought he was looking at the concrete floor three seconds too long and reacted strangely when I asked about his family. Women understand each other when you say that you didn't take a job because the feeling wasn't right. A man wouldn't do that so quickly. They reason their choices and are not easily led by their gut.

So we immediately come to the question of the day whether intuition and intuitive ability are better developed in women. It turns out not to be the case, men also certainly ‘read’ other signals, only they will let their decision be influenced by them less quickly.

Because intuition, what exactly is that? It is defined as the ‘direct perception of truth or facts independent of any reasoning process’.

You have never met someone, know nothing about that person and yet the first meeting colors your gut feeling.

The older I get, the better I listen to it. The intern who had already, I'm not exaggerating, called 58 times for her internship started and on day one already wanted to sit in on a meeting with our biggest client and also had a big mouth towards a colleague. My sales director and I had a bad feeling and decided to part ways that day. Too bad, sad, but when in doubt, don't take it back. So.

Yet sometimes you want something so badly that you brush your feeling aside. In love, or in my case with a new babysitter. The fact that she never really looked at me was probably shyness. And that she canceled in the second week (via WhatsApp and then didn't want to speak to me on the phone), was probably also because she felt really bad about it. And her rather demanding tone in a message three days later in which she wanted to know all our vacations for this year... Oh, she probably just wanted to show that she wanted to stay with us for a long time. Moreover, messages sometimes come across as less nice than they are intended. So I waved and brushed it off until everything seemed golden, smooth, and unblemished again. And then came the moment that showed that the nagging feeling was not for nothing. Because I had seen it right. And felt it.

That's the only advantage of the disadvantage: you at least know again that our silly gut feeling is correct. And that there are always many more people who make you happy. So if you find Haarlem an incredibly cozy city and enjoy playing with my girls on Monday and Tuesday... may-britt@amayzine.com is where you need to be.