This is how you keep the sex alive during quarantine
It's now day 8 in quarantine and also day number 8 in my sports leggings. By the way, I haven't used them much in the past few years to work out.
But they feel so nice. And they move nicely. Since no one sees me now, except for my kids, husband, and occasionally a colleague via Zoom, well, I think it's fine. But yes, secretly I also know: it's not very hot and sexy how I look in quarantine times a baggy sweater with drool from my kids on top, so to speak, and then the whole legging looks a bit sloppy. Unkempt. Nothing cool or sporty about it, because my husband has known me longer than today.
So I dove into the world of science and decided to look at what keeps a relationship exciting. Especially in times of the corona crisis, it's handy to know, because: you see each other all day long in pajamas. Or in a faded shirt from six festivals ago. How do you keep it a bit hot at home? How does your relationship survive in this crisis where we live on top of each other 24/7?
Practical tips from sexologists and psychologists:
1. Schedule sex. Honestly: people who just say out loud: ‘Saturday we're doing it, you and I’, they do it more often than people who don't schedule it.
2. Just talk about it openly. Indicate if the whole crisis has an impact on your feelings and that your libido isn't really what it should be when you're worried about the people around you. It will come back, don't worry.
3. Although every day now feels a bit like a crazy weekend day, it's still advisable to plan a sort of ‘date night’ together. Make something delicious to eat, set up a cheese platter, order sushi, a glass of red wine, and hey, some time for each other. Don't eat in front of the television, no, be romantic and talk to each other.
4. Jump in the shower with the other person. Guaranteed success.
5. When you go to bed, take off that XL pajama and put on a nice little thong or nothing. And say this out loud too, otherwise there's a good chance your partner won't even notice.
