Science says: about these 30 things couples often argue

Fighting: sometimes it is so delightful. Of course, you shouldn't make it a habit, but now and then adding a little fuel to the fire should be fine. Now I must mention that I am not always taken seriously by my boyfriend anymore. Especially not when I shout for the umpteenth time: “You have to keep conquering me, otherwise I will really be gone soon.” Well, I am just a drama queen.

One couple may argue more often than another couple, but we all fight. People who claim to never have disagreements with their loved one, I don't believe or I just don't want to believe it. Because how do they do that exactly? And could I perhaps receive some tips about that? Whether you argue a lot or a little, research (2019) shows that there are clear similarities in the topics we bicker about. The researchers asked 107 couples which topics are sensitive. This resulted in a clear top 30. I recognize (almost) all of them.

1. Not showing enough love or affection.
2. Lack of communication.
3. One of the two gives too little attention to the other.
4. Not feeling appreciated.
5. Feelings.
6. Jealousy.
7. Talking to an ex.
8. Being possessive.
9. Previous relationships.
10. Whose friends spend the most time together.
11. Household.
12. Daily chores.
13. Who works more.
14. Not showing up.
15. Sharing responsibilities.
16. When one wants sex and the other does not.
17. Frequency of sex.
18. Sexual acts.
19. Sharing private information about the relationship with others.
20. In-laws.
21. Who is in charge.
22. Dominance.
23. Choice of clothing.
24. Religion.
25. Goals.
26. Future plans.
27. Choice of clothing.
28. Children.
29. Who should pay for what.
30. Someone spends the other's money.