People say: this popular and often given advice should never be followed
You know them, those little wisdoms that you sometimes still find here and there in a toilet. ‘Better a good neighbor than a distant friend’, that kind of thing. Often I have read those texts so many times that I don't even really think about whether what is written makes sense or if there is any truth in it. It's the same with the — I’ll just call it that — Instagram wisdoms that I see so often passing by on Instagram. I found it completely hilarious when I saw that someone I know well and whom I know received the startup capital and just a successful business from her father, posted quotes in her Stories that said you can achieve anything if you just work hard enough for it. And that got me thinking: I knew that this (in her case) was the biggest nonsense, but how would it be with the people I follow and who I don't necessarily know well or at all?
This kind of standard advice really does not always apply, as I also learned in the Reddit topic where the question ‘what’s some popular self-care/self-love advice that is actually really toxic?'’was answered by over 15K people. You can read the funniest responses below.
1. ‘If they can’t handle me at my worst, they don’t deserve me at my best…‘ Funny how all those people who say that are always at their ’worst.‘
2. ‘The advice to always surround yourself with positive people. If you are willing to throw people out of your life when they are a bit down, you ensure that people around you will hide their negativity and only discuss the positive, and thus you only get superficial friendships.’
3. ‘Always trust your feelings.‘ This advice is everywhere. No, often feelings require some self-reflection to process and bring about positive change.’
4. ‘That you should always expect support, love, and acceptance from your friends and family. A popular idea, but if people really care about you, they will tell you when you are not doing well.’
5. ‘Live your truth.‘ There is a thin line between being authentic and just being a jerk.’
6. ‘Show them what they are missing.‘ No. Do it better for yourself.’
7. ‘Be who you really are‘ is only good advice if you are actually a good person.’
8. ‘If people don’t like you as you are, then that’s their problem.‘ No, sometimes you are really the jerk.’
9. ‘Positive vibes only,‘ or ’you just have to stay positive.‘ People use it because they think it cheers people up, but actually, you are just dismissing people's feelings.’
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