7 reasons to go on a second date
Last week I wrote about the 7 reasons not to go on a second date. Now I hear you thinking: when should I actually go on a second date? That's a very good question. Therefore, here are 7 reasons for my single fellows to give your first date a follow-up.
1. Your date makes you feel at ease
Healthy tension is of course part of it, especially during the first date. But when you're still sitting at the table with trembling hands after an hour, something isn't quite right. Feeling good in each other's presence is a requirement. Were you at ease? Then you can definitely go on a second date.
2. You laughed a lot
Perhaps the most important thing about a first date: having fun. It can sometimes be nice to dive deep unexpectedly, but a first date is mainly about having a good time. Did you laugh a lot? Then you'll surely have fun again next time.
3. You think about him/her a lot
Are you still thinking a lot about him/her in the days after your date? Then a second date is necessary. You're probably getting more curious and want to know more about the other person. So save all those new questions for date number two.
4. The spark can always ignite later
When you're in doubt, a second date can be very important. Sometimes you feel that someone has potential, but you still need to figure it out further. Maybe nerves played too big a role or your date had a bad day. The ice has been broken now, so the second time can only be better. What isn't there can always still come.
5. He/she shows genuine interest
I think you can quickly sense whether someone is genuinely interested or not. Asking questions is important, but an interrogation is an absolute no-go. More important than asking questions: listening to your answers. Does he/she elaborate on what you say or is the next question already fired at you? This is a crucial point. I once had a date with a man who said, “Let's start with an ABC.” I found this really terrible, as if he had prepared a standard questionnaire. Also pay attention to what kind of questions your date asks. Does he ask a lot about your friends and family? Then it's usually a good sign.
6. The first date lasted a long time
Did your one drink lead to an extensive pub crawl or did you even end up at someone's home afterwards? Then you probably couldn't get enough of each other. When your date lasted much longer than expected, you can say it was a great success. That feeling that it shouldn't end: that naturally makes you want more.
7. He/she contacts you right after the date
I still don't understand that hard to get thing. If you had a nice date, you just send a message that same evening about how enjoyable it was. It can be that simple. Or even better: your date immediately asks when you'll see each other again. Enthusiasm is nothing to be ashamed of.
