Science says: one in five people fantasizes about their colleague

Secretly, we are quite a kinky bunch together. Or well, kinky... Horny might be a better word. Because we talk a lot about sex. Some more than others. But we all think about sex much more than we actually talk about it. Yes, we fantasize quite a bit. But do those fantasies only involve your partner? Well, not exactly.

Exes also come into play, sometimes friends, but mostly: colleagues. In fact, according to online research, one in five people fantasizes about a colleague. 2000 people participated in this online study, of which 86 percent of men said they fantasize about sex daily, while for women, that was 53 percent.

As you might expect, this study was conducted anonymously. And that meant that honest answers were given (at least we hope so), and they are as follows: 19 percent fantasizes about their ex, 19 percent about a colleague, best friends come next, and with 14 percent, celebrities are at the bottom.

Although we don't like to admit it: 51 percent is ashamed of their fantasies, and 48 percent never talks about it at all. Quite a shame, because fantasizing about sex (with anyone) can really help against stress. And it doesn't have to mean that much if it's not continuously with your own partner. Although Justin Lehmiller (from the American Kinsey Institute) says that when your partner never appears in your fantasies, there might be something wrong in your relationship.

Now I'm actually quite curious whether people during and/or after corona fantasize more or less about colleagues. Working from home is now the norm, and the chance that it will completely return to the old ways is getting smaller. Is it then ‘out of sight, out of mind’ or do those fantasies become more intense? Or is the colleague in that steamy sex dream replaced by a Harry Styles or Gigi Hadid?

Source: Quest