What I want to say to Shay Zahavi

It seemed to be a beautiful Sunday. The Zahavi family must have celebrated Mother's Day in the morning. Three children on a large bed. A croissant, a cup of coffee, a somewhat crumpled drawing. After lunch, Eran Zahavi really had to go. A long kiss, a success and give-it-your-all and I'll-see-you-tonight followed. Maybe she waved until he was a dot. A child on the hip, another kicking a ball on the street in front of their house. Their house that was the safest place on earth. Back then.

What followed will take years to smooth over. Tape on the mouths, tied to the bed, watching while your children undergo the same fate. As if the humiliation wasn't bad enough, your beautiful hair is cut off.

Your husband is called on the players' bus and drives the rubber from the tires back home. To the battlefield that once was your safe nest. There is police, there are journalists in the street, there is sympathy.

But the next day there is more. People in talk shows sigh and speak outrage. And there are cautious suggestions that you shouldn't flaunt your possessions. That you shouldn't let that expensive Rolex come into view because then people know what can be taken.

I got angry about it. It's not like you're waving Rolexes na-na-na-na-naaa and sleeping in while calling out to your followers on Instagram and adding: ‘You don't have it nice and I do.’ You're just in a photo next to your husband and have a watch on your wrist. A watch that your husband has worked hard for for years, trained for every day, had to deny himself birthdays and other pleasures. Because top sports is top sports is top sports. All the hard work, the attention, and the pressure also have an advantage: the salary. And the Zahavi family can enjoy that as far as I'm concerned.

It feels a bit like the girl who was brutally raped and afterwards is told that she shouldn't have worn a short skirt.

So can we please stop this? The Zahavi family is already having a hard enough time.

I wish them strength, power, love, and preservation of trust in humanity.

Image: Instagram @shayzahavi