Does your partner always forget what you tell them? That's a good sign.

You were just telling a long story about your mother's sprained ankle and that baby gift for your friend's son, and your husband is completely distracted. Not listening. ‘Sorry, what did you say?’

Get out of here
‘Oh yes, your mother with her ankle, yes.’ Then you arrive two days later at your parents‘ house and your husband says: ’You sprained your ankle? Wow, how did that happen!’ Men and listening… Men and remembering something… You’d become a bit crazy because you have to tell everything at least five times before it sticks in his brain, but it’s actually a good sign if your partner always forgets what you say. At least, that’s what researchers claim. It happens most with the people you love the most.

How does that work? Because your partner feels so comfortable with you, he knows that your stories go as they go. And that you, well, remember the most important things for him. That birthday of his friend, bringing that flower to his mother, resolving that argument with his sister, organizing the decorations for your children's birthdays. Women organize, men listen half-heartedly. That’s love, so to speak.

Did you say football?
If he doesn’t feel comfortable with someone or doesn’t know someone very well yet? Then the poor guy will pay close attention to all the details in a story. But because he knows you inside out, he’s mostly just half-watching that damn Ajax on television (the season has started again). So you could say that the closer the bond between two people, the less they really listen to each other. Not out of disinterest, but precisely because you think you know the other person very well already.

So: you just keep chatting away. Let him be distracted staring at that football screen and then ask you next week ‘if we still need to bring a flower to his mother’. You’ve already done that, of course. Women…

Source: ohmymag.co.uk