What on earth should you wear to that wedding?

Corona is - a kind of - over and so the yes-words and the bachelor parties are flying through the air like confetti. Instagram is full of drool-worthy parties in Tuscany (where the concentration of brides per hectare has now surpassed the number of nuns), in Ibiza or just in our own little country. A marriage means problems and that starts on the wedding day. What do you give, what do you say, why are you always seated at the single table as a single, and other nagging issues. But the question of all questions is of course: what do we wear? Well, let me consider myself the right person to guide you a bit in that. I have attended quite a few weddings (and apparently successfully because they are all still together, barring a bump here and there, as far as I know) and gathering looks for a special occasion is my hobby. Moreover, I too have danced out of tune a few times when it comes to wedding outfits (ouch, that time in Sicily, that dress was really way too white), so you know you are protected by the mistakes I learned from.

1. The color

Mai, jamais, never, niemahl do you wear white as a wedding guest. The honor goes to the bride. She is the most important and all the effort you put into your look is ultimately meant to be her most beautiful guest. Small note: unless the dress code is indeed white, then forget everything I said.

long cotton dress, €595 PAUW

2. Don't wear high heels

A wedding usually takes place in a castle on top of a hill, in that little church behind the cobblestones or on the beach. There's a good chance you'll then take a small boat to the lunch location only to leave some wish balloons or other ecological footprint-increasing nonsense behind in the square. No matter how diverse the locations are (let the wedding planners shuffle), one thing they have in common: a smooth surface is usually hard to find. So don't be stubborn (note to self, note to self) by wearing those Louboutin or Aquazzura heels of 12 centimeters, but just choose a nice sandal (don't forget the pedicure) for during the day. A wedge heel could possibly be an option, but that's where it ends. If those Loubies are begging for a night out, you could take them out of your bag at the party in the evening.

Strappy sandals, €199 PAUW

Jimmy Choo, €850 Mytheresa

3. A small bag

But not from the bag you carry with you, because that is so petite that actually your phone shouldn't even fit in it. Just a little lip gloss, a powder, and who knows your credit card, but that's it. And a handkerchief of course, but then preferably a pressed cotton one. Your grandma should be proud of you. Nothing uglier than women dragging a large work bag at a wedding. Today, elegance takes precedence over practicality. I personally find a clutch the most beautiful, because you can carry it so daintily in both hands while walking into the church. But if there is a chain (strap) on the bag, that is very nice during the reception. Then you have your hands free to grab drinks and snacks. Tip: put the chain (the strap) in the bag during the day, it looks just a bit nicer.

Bottega Veneta, €1900 Mytheresa

Rattan clutch, €675 PAUW

4. The dress

Look at your own pluses and minuses. Unless your name is Michele Obama, the upper arms are usually not our strongest asset. Even if you choose a small cap sleeve, it visually breaks a lot. But a sleeve just above your elbow is preferred in my opinion. Especially if it concerns a church wedding, it is neat to cover the skin of the arm. That can also be done with a light scarf or a stole.

Oscar de la Renta, €3203 Mytheresa

5. Ton sur ton

It's completely personal, but I find the ton sur ton look the most beautiful for wedding guests. Also because there are so many people together in quite pronounced outfits (everyone is doing their best, right?) it quickly becomes such a jumble of looks. If everyone dresses beautifully in one color, the overall picture is much prettier. It depends on the company and the setting, but I really love sweet, soft colors at a wedding like yellow, lilac, lavender, or rosy red. Also beautiful: an ecru dress with a fine print in the shape of a butterfly, flower, or dot. Make sure everything you wear is cheerful and breathes love. I would park a skull print until another party.

Oscar de la Renta, €2817 Mytheresa

Oscar de la Renta, €2621 Mytheresa

6. Finish it off with a hat

Or a hair accessory. And a brooch, or a lovely glove. And a stole. Today more is more, so go all out.

Straw hat, PAUW