With this mental trick, you'll have better sex
From tantra to the complete kama sutra guide, you have quite a few options to upgrade your sex life. But did you know that good sex is also just in your head? If we are to believe the experts, it really is that simple. Worth trying before you pull the corkscrew (if it exists) out of the cupboard again this weekend.
It can happen that your mind wanders while having sex. Shit, forgot to do that dark laundry today, I must not forget that tomorrow. Not very pleasant of course if she/he/they just started an extensive pampering attempt, but very normal. And if you tell yourself not to think about something, you will naturally think about it. So while you are completely distracted putting together the to-do list for your work, it could all be a bit more fun and enjoyable.
According to the authors of Making Love Real: The Intelligent Couple’s Guide to Lasting Intimacy and Passion, you only need to do one thing to have vavavoom sex: think about what you find exciting. It works counterproductively to keep your mind away from things you are not allowed to think about, so focus on what you enjoy. It has a kind of particularly favorable domino effect. By directing your thoughts to what excites you, your brain gets to work. Your mind sends signals to the body, connects, and voilà: everything becomes even more intense and satisfying. Think of your mind as a kind of erotic control tower: you just need to point things in the right direction and it becomes fireworks in the body and mind. No shopping list, to-do list, or overbooking haunting your mind, it’s all about sex, peaks, and pleasure.
By the way, if you ever have an argument with your partner, don’t miss the chance for make-up sex. During an argument, your body reacts the same way as during sex (?). If you have sex after an argument, everything becomes more intense. And, experts say, it is apparently extremely satisfying because you also feel like you are solving something.
You know what you need to do: think only of steamy things between the sheets or have a little session of make-up sex. They don’t say for nothing that everything starts with the right mindset. Why would that be different for sex?
