5x what an introverted extrovert needs

Recently, I wrote an article about the ‘ambivert’, also known as the extroverted introvert. This type of person is generally considered a social butterfly, but secretly enjoys an evening alone on the couch much more. In extroverted moods, the ambivert schedules all sorts of appointments, which are then canceled one by one. Well, I speak from experience because I am one of those myself.

Well, outsiders often think that the ambivert is always up for a party and enjoys being around other people, but that is far from true. How to deal with an ambivert? By understanding the things below, because this is what we actually need:

1. Having conversations that mean something
The ambivert is good at small talk, but prefers to lose themselves in deep conversations that really matter. Of course, light topics are nice from time to time, but much more than extroverts, ambiverts are overthinkers, which makes them feel a strong need to discuss something substantial.

2. Recharging after a social event
The ambivert can easily sit on the talk chair all evening during a birthday or networking event. But what many people don't know is that they are completely exhausted afterward and prefer to withdraw for a few days. That social battery really needs to be recharged, and that's exactly why appointments get canceled.

3. Occasionally not having to say anything
While it can be difficult for the extrovert to find the off switch, the ambivert also needs silences. However, the ambivert is often seen as extroverted, leading people to quickly think that something is wrong when nothing is said for a moment. But the truth is that we don't always want to feel the need to fill every silence.

4. Receiving a listening ear
As an introverted extrovert, you possess two strengths: speaking and listening. This often makes you a mediator in conflicts and good at giving advice to people. Despite the fact that you love doing this for your surroundings, you sometimes also intrinsically feel the need for others to offer you that listening ear.

5. That a cancellation is not taken personally
As I just mentioned, other people often don't realize that the ambivert has a social limit. When an appointment is canceled, it doesn't necessarily mean that you don't find it important or enjoyable, but that it simply costs you too much energy at that moment.