The mistakes you make in a relationship are your parents' fault

Did your parents used to kiss extensively at breakfast, to your feigned disgust as a child, or was there not even a pinch on the shoulder? Your parents' behavior has a significant influence on how you act in a relationship and thus also on what mistakes you make.

I am the child of divorced parents. When I was six, my father and mother decided to separate. That was very sad at the time, of course, but I still think it was the best decision they could have made. The remarkable thing is that my parents' divorce influences my marriage behavior. I am 35 years old, have been with my boyfriend for more than 13 years, and have never been close to the altar. Except to marry friends or be a witness.

My less marriage-minded behavior is not strange at all, research shows. Children of divorced parents are more likely to cohabit and are less quick to choose marriage. That explains a lot in my relationship, as my boyfriend and I both have divorced parents. If you do get married? Then according to CBS, you have twice the chance of getting divorced again. By the way, I am not claiming that the absence of a wedding is a mistake. I am being cautious.

The way of arguing, having trust in each other, how often you touch each other, and even sexuality are partly inherited from fathers and mothers. Maybe you are not such a fan of cuddling, which could simply be because you have never seen it. But did your parents always snuggle up on the couch? Then there is a good chance that you do this more often.

Behavior in a relationship seeps through generation after generation. There is a good chance that you unconsciously adopt a way of doing things from your parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. For example, not showing affection, having poor communication with your partner, or neglecting things between the sheets. The good thing is that you can tackle this, because if you are aware of a pattern, it is possible to do something about it.

Do you see a bit too much of your own parents in your relationship in a way that doesn't make you happy? Confront your pattern and open the conversation with your partner. It's a nice start to do things just a little differently.