Why aftercare is important and how to approach it
If all goes well, foreplay is not an unfamiliar term to you. Everyone knows that sex goes just a little bit better when you are aroused enough. So, a very important point, that foreplay. At least as important is what you do after sex. In other words: during afterplay. Are you thinking: yes, but then I turn around as quickly as possible and grab my phone again? Then read on quickly.
What is afterplay exactly?
Afterplay refers to everything you do with your lover after sex. The game after sex, tada. Afterplay is terribly underestimated. This is a much more intimate moment than you might think. With afterplay, you can strengthen your bond. Or not, if you immediately grab your phone and finish all your socials, but do you take the time to cuddle and lie close to each other for a while? Then you will have an overall more positive feeling about your relationship.
The benefits in a row
As mentioned earlier, afterplay can strengthen your bond and contribute to a positive feeling. It can also alleviate insecurities at the moment when the other doesn’t jump out of bed immediately. Because let’s face it: sex is an intimate event, and especially when you have reached a climax, you have made yourself vulnerable. For example, it can happen that you become emotional after sex or feel very empty, also known as after sex blues. Afterplay can play an important role in reducing these feelings.
Afterplay ideas
Afterplay doesn’t have to be much or spectacular. It’s about staying in the moment together a little longer and enjoying it. For example, cuddle a little longer, kiss a little longer, or gently stroke each other’s arm. You can also choose to go shower together and wash each other thoroughly, who knows, there might be a second round. Or maybe you’re just completely lazy after your playful session and don’t want to get out of bed, then you can talk a little in each other’s arms – no evaluation meeting, of course. Are you not much of a talker? How about listening to your favorite Spotify playlist together while cuddling in bed? It could also be that you’ve become quite hangry after sex, how nice is it to order a pizza and eat it together in bed? Whatever you do, make sure to give each other your full attention for a while.
Side note: ladies, don’t forget to pee before you fall asleep so wonderfully in those arms. This doesn’t have to happen immediately after sex, but before you fall asleep. This is to prevent any released bacteria from throwing a party and leaving you with a bladder infection.
