How is it that you really like someone, but don't fall in love?
We've all been there: you really like someone for a long time and yet that feeling of being in love just doesn't come. You have no idea why, because the other person meets almost all your high expectations. Besides the fact that you don't understand it yourself, the people around you also understand very little of it. Despite the fact that you seem perfect for each other on paper, that feeling of being in love just doesn't happen. How is it that those butterflies just won't come?
It could very well be due to the following things:
There is someone else in the picture
Unconsciously, you might still be hung up on an old love, which makes you simply unable to give your heart to someone else. If the previous chapter hasn't been fully closed, it can prevent you from being open to something new.
Your heart is still broken
It could also be that you are still ‘traumatized’ from your previous break-up. Maybe you were hurt so badly that it's difficult to open up to others. You've built a wall around yourself and apparently you need a little more time to let it down.
You prefer to be friends
You can really like someone and still feel that they are not relationship material. Maybe you secretly just prefer to be friends? It’s always painful to ‘friendzone’ someone, but who knows, you might end up with a friendship for life.
He/She suffocates you
Maybe the other person is moving a bit faster than you. If you feel like you see each other too often, it can feel suffocating. And those who feel suffocated naturally do not fall in love. You need to be clear about this with the other person; meeting up is not an obligation. There's a good chance that the feeling of being in love will come if the other person eases off a bit.
You're putting too much pressure on it
You and/or the people around you might be putting a lot of pressure on your love life. If you feel like time is ticking and you really need to find someone, you usually end up finding no one. That sounds blunt, but it's true. So don't force anything and just relax a bit.
Fear of commitment
Last but not least: the well-known fear of commitment. By the way, I recently learned that fear of commitment is actually the same as fear of abandonment. Think about that for a moment. When you shut down the moment someone gets too close, you're mainly afraid of getting hurt in advance. Well, love is just scary, but if you're not open to it, you won't get it either. Try to open yourself up to love again and again; it's more than worth it.
