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6 signals that your relationship is not as good as you think

By Wieke Veenboer | #!30Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200+02:002730#30Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200+02:00-5Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam202330 08pm30pm-30Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200+02:005Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam2023302023Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200305309pmFriday=9#!30Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam9#09-08-2023#!30Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200+02:002730#/30Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200+02:00-5Europe/Amsterdam3030Europe/Amsterdam202330#!30Fri, 08 Sep 2023 17:30:27 +0200+02:00Europe/Amsterdam9#

Every little house has its cross, a saying that I think is completely true. A relationship that seems perfect on the surface can actually be very miserable. But it can also be that one of the two (or both) is quite blind to the problems in their relationship. And yes, that can happen to you too: these 6 signals indicate that your relationship is not as good as you might think.

1. You constantly think about the future with that other person and how things could be
Huh? Isn't that good? Not entirely: first of all, you are not paying enough attention to how your relationship is at this moment and forget to enjoy it, and secondly, you are mainly focusing on things that could be better or different. In short: you want to change things about your relationship and that is not always realistic.

2. You focus on the past and how good the relationship used to be
Focusing on the future is therefore not ideal, but neither is focusing on the past: you lose yourself in the good moments that you can daydream about, and you are mainly in love with the person they were at the beginning of the relationship and not with who that person is now.

3. You always make excuses for your partner
You always manage to justify it when your partner does something; it's the circumstances, normally that person never acts like this, while you know that this is part of your partner's character and you are lying to yourself.

4. You tend to explain and justify everything to your surroundings
You realize that your surroundings do not have much confidence in your relationship, and you have a continuous tendency to want to correct that. Result: a waterfall of explanations because you really want to change their perspective.

5. Deep down, you are actually unhappy, but you keep justifying it to yourself
You quickly feel guilty when you have negative feelings about your relationship or your partner, but you always manage to ignore that, even though that little voice that says something is wrong doesn't go away.

6. You work harder on your relationship than your partner
You are willing to work on it and make the necessary changes and work hard at it, also on yourself, but your partner does not. And every time your partner promises improvement, it is always just temporary.

Source: PsychologyToday